?

Log in

No account? Create an account
Jim Huggins Below are the 10 most recent journal entries recorded in the "Jim Huggins" journal:

[<< Previous 10 entries]

July 13th, 2018
02:40 pm
[User Picture]

[Link]

Words matter. Positive words matter more.

I'm sitting home watching this epic Wimbledon semi-final that simply won't end.   (Currently 24-24 in the 5th set.)   You know what I'm noticing the most?   The chair umpire, who quiets the enthusiastic crowd down by saying "Thank you", rather than something more directly aggressive like "Quiet, please".   

It's probably something distinctly British.   But it's also an interesting pattern of using a positive statement instead of a negative one to achieve a purpose.   

I've read this before in a number of contexts.   I remember knowing about this even in college, when I was tasked to write a statement about email etiquette for a group in which I was a member, and took pains to write statements positively rather than negatively.   But I've been reminded of this more lately.

  • In the video of The Last Lecture, Randy Pausch recounts the story of talking with one of his advisors, who said to him "It's a shame that people perceive you as arrogant; it's going to hurt your ability to achieve your goals."   Pausch's remark after-the-fact: "Wow, what a nice way to tell someone that they're a jerk!".
  • Staying with The Last Lecture: in the book, Pausch recounts a story that he learned from his time working for Disney.   If you ask a cast member at Disney what time the park closes, they'll tell you that "the park is open until 9pm" (or whenever).   Note the switch: it's not that the park closes at 9pm, it's that the park is open until 9pm.
  • I saw an article come across my newsfeed awhile ago that points out that people who are perpetually apologizing can, instead, say "thank you", and achieve a better purpose.

Can politeness and courtesy and positive affirmation achieve more than criticism?

(Leave a comment)

June 21st, 2018
04:11 pm
[User Picture]

[Link]

Thanos (Still) Demands My Silence

I admire young people on social media.

Yes, young people are ... um, young.   Sure, they post freely, without much self-censorship.   They post ideas that aren't well-formed.   They lack experience to understand many of the implications of the ideas they post.

They live their lives out loud.

But you know what happens as a result?   They learn.   People respond to their ideas and point out the flaws in their arguments.   And then the original posters point out the flaws in the counterarguments.   A dialogue results.   The net result is the development of better ideas, and intellectual growth.   (That last one is particularly of interest to me, given my chosen vocation.)

I wish I could live my life out loud.   But I can't.   Because I'm surrounded by people who demand my silence.

I have a whole list of things that I'm not "allowed" to talk about.   I'd list them here, but ... well, I'm not allowed to talk about them.   Because someone will tell me that it's "inappropriate" for someone in my "position" to speak about that issue.    

And, no, that's not theoretical; I've had that conversation any number of times over the past year.

(Yeah, I'm vaguebooking.   That's the whole point, if you haven't noticed.)

Read more...Collapse )

(Leave a comment)

May 18th, 2018
12:43 pm
[User Picture]

[Link]

Five Minute Friday: Secret

This blog post appears courtesy of Five Minute Friday.

Read more...Collapse )

(Leave a comment)

January 11th, 2018
08:56 pm
[User Picture]

[Link]

Wednesday Hodgepodge: 10-11 January 2018

A little late, because ... oh, who knows?

The Wednesday Hodgepodge appears courtesy of From This Side Of The Pond.

1. January is National Mentoring Month. Have you ever had a mentor? Been a mentor? How would you rate the experience?

Academia is basically filled with mentoring relationships --- some official, some unofficial.   Even the para-church organization I'm affiliated with (InterVarsity Christian Fellowship), which operates inside academia, is filled with mentoring relationships.

Rating those experiences?   The best of times, the worst of times.   Sometimes the person mentoring you provides you with great counsel; sometimes, not so much.   On the whole, though, I've gained far more than I've lost from my mentors.

2. What current trend makes no sense to you?

It's been hard for me to figure out how to answer this ... because there are people who read my social media postings and then get mad at me behind my back.

But I'll do it anyways.

In 2011, only 30% of white Evangelical Christians believed that an elected official who committed an immoral act in their personal life could still behave ethically and fulfill their duties in their public and professional life.

In 2016, that number had risen to 72%.

(Source: Public Religion Research Institute, as reported by The Washington Post.)

Read more...Collapse )

(Leave a comment)

January 3rd, 2018
10:43 am
[User Picture]

[Link]

Wednesday Hodgepodge: 3 January 2018

What, a Wednesday Hodgepodge completed on a Wednesday?   I must still be on vacation or something :)

The Wednesday Hodgepodge appears courtesy of From This Side Of The Pond.

1. It's that time of year again...time for Lake Superior University to present a list of words (or phrases) they'd like to see banished (for over-use, mis-use, or genera uselessness) in 2018. You can read more about the decision making process and word meaning here, but this year's top vote getters are-

unpack, dish (as in dish out the latest rumor), pre-owned, onboarding/offboarding, nothingburger, let that sink in, let me ask you this, impactful, Cofefe, drill down, fake news, hot water heater (hot water doesn't need to be heated), and gig economy

Which of these words/phrases would you most like to see banished from everyday speech and why? Is there a word not on the list you'd like to add?

I'm terribly biased on this one.   

The word I'd like to see banished is "dish" ... not because of the use of the word itself, but because of what it represents.   Gossip hurts people.   More to the point: gossip hurt me in the last year.   I do my best not to engage in it myself, but our culture seems to thrive on it.

We'd be so much better off as a culture if we'd find a way to talk to people instead of talking about people.

2. What's something you need to get rid of in the new year?

The usual.   About 40 pounds.   Stress.   Clutter.   Guilt.   

3. Where do you feel stuck?

Just about everywhere.

Read more...Collapse )

(1 comment | Leave a comment)

January 1st, 2018
11:15 am
[User Picture]

[Link]

Meh.

Warning: self-absorbed, vaguebooky, angsty post ahead.   Proceed at your own risk.

Read more...Collapse )

(Leave a comment)

December 22nd, 2017
04:02 pm
[User Picture]

[Link]

Wednesday Hodgepodge: 20-22 December 2017

Yeah, I missed last week, and I'm late this week.   At least everyone's taking next week off.  :)

The Wednesday Hodgepodge appears courtesy of From This Side of the Pond.

1. Where have you found unexpected magic or delight this holiday season?

As frequent readers (why do you read this, anyways?) already know, December is really hard for me.   Too many demands on my time and energy and spirit.   Which means that, inevitably, I can't do everything I'd like to do.

One of the things that I often miss out on is putting up decorations.   I remember living in a neighborhood at home where everyone would put out Christmas lights, and sometimes we'd just drive around the neighborhood looking at everyone's displays.   The most I can manage these days is to put some icicle lights out on our roof ... and half the time, I can't even get those put up.

Except this year, I came home from work one day, to discover that my dear daughter and her boyfriend had climbed up on the roof and put up the icicle lights for me.  I sat in the driveway and wept a bit.   It was a wonderfully unexpected gift.

2. What's your favorite type of holiday gathering? Will you/have you gathered in your favorite way this month?

Read more...Collapse )

Tags:

(2 comments | Leave a comment)

December 9th, 2017
04:50 pm
[User Picture]

[Link]

Five-Minute Friday: "Only"

One day late.  Oh, well.

Today's five-minute writing prompt appears courtesy of Five Minute Friday.

"I don't know why you're so sensitive.   Yeah, what he said was mean, but it's only words."

With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness.  Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.  (James 3:9-10)

"It's only locker-room talk.   It doesn't mean anything."

But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.  Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.  (Ephesians 5:3-4)

"I don't know why you're so sensitive.  It's only a joke.   Sheesh, stop being a killjoy and laugh once in a while."

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians 4:29)

"It's only a little white lie on a Facebook meme.  The larger point still holds.  Why do you care so much?"

Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. (Ephesians 5:3-4)


Tags:

(Leave a comment)

December 6th, 2017
11:09 pm
[User Picture]

[Link]

Wednesday Hodgepodge: 6 December 2017

Yeah, this entry is ... oh, wait, I'm not late, it's still Wednesday!  :)

The Wednesday Hodgepodge appears courtesy of From This Side of the Pond.

1. What title would you give this current chapter of your life?

"What's Next?" (with apologies to Aaron Sorkin)

So much of what I'm doing right now is simply reacting to the next task in front of me.   I wish I had more opportunity to pause and reflect.   Maybe that's why I'm trying obsessively to get back into the whole blogging thing again.

2. December 6 is National Microwave Oven Day. Who knew? Besides popcorn and coffee reheats, what's the most common thing you microwave? Could you get along without a microwave?

Mostly, it's leftovers.   I'm sure I could get along without it, but it'd be a whole lot more awkward.

3. If you could insert yourself into any Christmas carol and experience the lyrics in real life, which Christmas carol lyric would you choose and why?

This is an unusual carol ... but it reminds us that Christmas isn't about a baby, but a savior.

4. Describe the most beautiful drive you've ever taken.

Oh, that's hard.   Partially because I'm usually the one doing the driving. 

(ducks away to renew my automotive insurance)

I guess there are a couple that come to mind. 

Read more...Collapse )

Tags:

(Leave a comment)

10:32 pm
[User Picture]

[Link]

Five-Minute Friday: Near

Okay, I'm really late on this one.   So be it.

Today's five-minute writing prompt appears courtesy of Five Minute Friday.

Advent is a period of expectation: waiting for the arrival of God amongst us.   Waiting for God to draw near.

But God drawing near doesn't mean that we notice.

God chose to enter our world in human form.   His birth was accompanied by a cosmic event, and heralded by a host of angels singing.

And you know who noticed?   Practically nobody.

Sure, a bunch of shepherds tending their flocks by night.   (How low do you have to be on the social ladder to not only have a job tending stinky sheep, but to have the night shift on top of it?)   They came and worshiped, but that's not exactly the adulation anyone would want.

A couple of old people at the temple noticed when his parents showed up to dedicate him, but nobody pays attention to crazy old people anyways.

Months later, some professors from a foreign university showed up and asked the authorities about where this new king was, so they could offer proper worship (which they did).   The official response --- after the foreigners were safely away, of course --- was to commit an act of genocide in order to protect those in power.

This is the greeting that the creator of the world received when he chose to draw near to us.

And ... knowing that would happen, he came anyways.

Read more...Collapse )

Tags:

(Leave a comment)

[<< Previous 10 entries]

My Website Powered by LiveJournal.com